They are harmful stereotypes that won’t just create your black colored partner uncomfortable, they’ll further marginalize them.

You need to would you like to date an individual as you were enthralled by their “exotic ways” (honestly, are you doing an anthropological study on black culture because you like who they are and have compatible views and interests, not because their race is the next thing to do on your bucket list or? Don’t treat me personally like an artifact).

In the event that you responded no to those concerns and you also think those assumptions on black colored womanhood are downright absurd (hint: they truly are), then you may be well on the road to showing a black colored woman you want up to now a total person rather than a stereotype!

Therefore, as you’re getting to learn this girl, make sure to keep carefully the following in your mind:

1. Be Open-Minded About Racial and Cultural Differences

Race will probably show up in just about any interracial coupling, but please usually do not say “You’re pretty/intelligent/well-spoken/whatever for a black colored woman!” or “You’re in contrast to other black colored ladies!”

Which could appear to be a compliment, but just what we’re actually hearing is “I think all black colored individuals are negative adjective, you will be the exception.”

They are perfect samples of microaggressions. (more…)